INTP – ENTP Relationship

Joys and Struggles

This section INTP - ENTP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Specifically, we will be looking at the joys of this relationship as well as the struggles this relationship may have.

The INTP - ENTP relationship has 3 preference similarities and 1 preference difference. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually:

Extroversion-Introversion

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  • Are attracted by each other’s difference in energy levels. Extroverts appreciate the calm and steady demeanor of the Introvert, while Introverts enjoy the hearty and bubbly Extrovert.
  • Extrovert enjoys that there is an active listening ear in the Introvert, always ready to listen to his thoughts and rants.
  • Introvert enjoys that the Extrovert takes social leadership in most occasions, connecting them to new friends and people that they otherwise would be too shy to approach.
  • Extroverts, however, may find that the Introvert is too quiet and communicates too little with nothing to share. They may feel Introverts are boring, or just disinterested in talking to them.
  • Introverts may find that Extroverts are too loud and talk too much without listening to them. An Introvert may feel neglected and unheard by Extroverts because they will only share if asked – and Extroverts usually don’t ask.
  • On the weekends, Extroverts enjoy heading out for social activities or other high stimulation activities to relax while Introverts prefer staying home or at the most have some quiet activity with close friends. This difference in preference will sometimes lead to dissatisfaction.

Intuition-Intuition

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  • Because both parties enjoy discussing big ideas, possibilities and global issues, they will usually find a certain attraction to each other.
  • This is especially if they have similar viewpoints on certain issues, they will find chemistry with each other.
  • Both tend to enjoy each other’s uniqueness, not just in viewpoints but also in fashion, tastes and so on.
  • Because both parties enjoy talking about the future, their conversations will more often revolve around future hopes and dreams and exciting possibilities.
  • However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected.
  • Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance.
  • The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
  • A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper.

Thinking-Thinking

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  • Both parties enjoy the straightforward and frank communication styles; no emotional issues is brought into discussion and decision making.
  • As such, both find it easy to communicate with each other; they won’t have to try to cushion their message or filter it; but can afford to be direct without being afraid of offending the other party.
  • In decision-making, both parties use a logical, objective analysis to access pros and cons. This same mode of decision-making will mean that they are less likely to come into conflict.
  • While both are logical with one another, sometimes some romance and affection can liven up the relationship; both parties may have issues showing it.
  • Because both use a logical and objective process in decision-making, they may have a blind spot in considering their personal values.
  • Under stress, they may have an issue controlling their own emotions; sometimes this can lead to highly intense fights that are destructive.

Perceiving-Perceiving

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  • Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision.
  • Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim. Little conflict over these issues.
  • Both parties are comfortable with disorganization in the household; the household will probably be messy, and both are perfectly fine with it.
  • Both parties tend to be less consistent in performing routine household tasks like cleaning the house, doing the laundry and paying the bills.
  • However, since these activities are a necessary evil, the partner that tries to do these tasks consistently may feel frustrated and maybe resentful.
  • Also, because both parties want to keep their options open, they are likely to procrastinate making important decisions, sometimes even pushing it away until they make none.

 

Here’s how INTPs and ENTPs can relate to each other better:

Reaching out to the INTP as an ENTP
  • Give time for reflection – Your partner has similarly good insights like you to issues. However, you need to give time and space for your partner to reflect and give a thoughtful response. 
  • Accept alternative points of views – Your partner is likely to challenge your point of view. Learn to see it as a good thing as it will challenge your thought process. 
  • Don’t take it personally – Sometimes the challenge from your partner can seem like an attack on your competence. Don’t take it personally – but deal with the issue objectively. 
  • Consider the impact on people – Both of you may find consider issues with a pragmatic viewpoint. Also consider the impact on people as part of your analysis. 
  • Come to a conclusion – Don’t let discussions stay as that. Instead, make it a point to follow through on actionable steps for each discussion you have.
Reaching out to the ENTP as an INTP
  • Speak up intentionally – Make it a point to speak up. If not, your partner may unintentionally dominate the conversation. 
  • Increase your energy level – Be warmer and more energetic when engaging your partner; if not, your partner may find it hard to stay focused on what you are saying. 
  • Explain your logic – Whatever thought you suggest, make a clear explanation why you think so – don’t just challenge for its own sake. 
  • Encourage your partner’s enthusiasm – Your partner is a possibility seeker – don’t douse it too early with contrarian thinking. Rather, you can encourage the enthusiasm and then suggest some ways to improve. 
  • Take nothing personally – Your debates may get rather intense. Take nothing personally but treat it as refining each other’s point of view.

This is a summary of the joys and pains of the INTP – ENTP relationship.

However, personality dynamics are more complex than this. It does not just extend to the difference or similarity in individual preferences but goes deeper than that.