INFP – ENTP Relationship

INFP - ENTP Relationship

Joys and Struggles

This section INFP - ENTP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Specifically, we will be looking at the joys of this relationship as well as the struggles this relationship may have.

The INFP - ENTP relationship has 2 preference similarities and 2 preference differences. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually:

Extroversion-Introversion

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  • Are attracted by each other’s difference in energy levels. Extroverts appreciate the calm and steady demeanor of the Introvert, while Introverts enjoy the hearty and bubbly Extrovert.
  • Extrovert enjoys that there is an active listening ear in the Introvert, always ready to listen to his thoughts and rants.
  • Introvert enjoys that the Extrovert takes social leadership in most occasions, connecting them to new friends and people that they otherwise would be too shy to approach.
  • Extroverts, however, may find that the Introvert is too quiet and communicates too little with nothing to share. They may feel Introverts are boring, or just disinterested in talking to them.
  • Introverts may find that Extroverts are too loud and talk too much without listening to them. An Introvert may feel neglected and unheard by Extroverts because they will only share if asked – and Extroverts usually don’t ask.
  • On the weekends, Extroverts enjoy heading out for social activities or other high stimulation activities to relax while Introverts prefer staying home or at the most have some quiet activity with close friends. This difference in preference will sometimes lead to dissatisfaction.

Intuition-Intuition

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  • Because both parties enjoy discussing big ideas, possibilities and global issues, they will usually find a certain attraction to each other.
  • This is especially if they have similar viewpoints on certain issues, they will find chemistry with each other.
  • Both tend to enjoy each other’s uniqueness, not just in viewpoints but also in fashion, tastes and so on.
  • Because both parties enjoy talking about the future, their conversations will more often revolve around future hopes and dreams and exciting possibilities.
  • However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected.
  • Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance.
  • The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
  • A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper.

Thinking-Feeling

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  • Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler’s compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.
  • Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense.
  • The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
  • Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
  • Thinkers may not understand the Feeler’s desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler’s behavior and deem them complicated.
  • Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don’t show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship.

Perceiving-Perceiving

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  • Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision.
  • Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim. Little conflict over these issues.
  • Both parties are comfortable with disorganization in the household; the household will probably be messy, and both are perfectly fine with it.
  • Both parties tend to be less consistent in performing routine household tasks like cleaning the house, doing the laundry and paying the bills.
  • However, since these activities are a necessary evil, the partner that tries to do these tasks consistently may feel frustrated and maybe resentful.
  • Also, because both parties want to keep their options open, they are likely to procrastinate making important decisions, sometimes even pushing it away until they make none.

 

Here’s how INFPs and ENTPs can relate to each other better:

Reaching out to the INFP as an ENTP
  • Give them space to think about your proposals – When you propose a new idea to them, don’t expect an immediate response. Instead, give time and space for your partner to reflect and give a thoughtful response. 
  • Discuss your insights – Your insights tend to be more pragmatic. If you want a balanced, more humanistic point of view, discuss your insights with your partner. 
  • Be gentle and encouraging – Your directness or criticism may be construed as offensive or insensitive. Adopt a gentle and encouraging way to say it. 
  • Support your partner’s dreams – Your partner has dreams he/she hopes to see fulfilled in life. Learn about these dreams and find ways you can practically support him/her. 
  • Talk about impact on people – Your partner is more interested in ideas and proposals that are about helping people reach their potential.
Reaching out to the ENTP as an INFP
  • Assert yourself – Your partner may unconsciously dominate the conversation. Make sure you speak up – especially if the issue is important. 
  • Don’t take their rebuttal personally – Your partner uses debate as a way to get the best answer. Don’t take the challenge personally – it often has to do more with the issue at hand than you as a person. 
  • Be objective – Take a neutral, third-party point of view when discussing issues with your partner. Be objective in your analysis and stay neutral to the points you make. 
  • Use logic to defend your points – To convince your partner, you have to use logic. Your passion or how you feel personally about it matters little to your partner about the merits of the argument. 
  • Focus on the pragmatic approach – Talk about what is effective and efficient in your suggested approach. It provides more convincing power when trying to get your partner on your side.

This is a summary of the joys and pains of the INFP – ENTP relationship.

However, personality dynamics are more complex than this. It does not just extend to the difference or similarity in individual preferences but goes deeper than that.