ENFP - ENTP Relationship

ENFP - ENTP Relationship

Joys and Struggles

This section ENFP - ENTP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Specifically, we will be looking at the joys of this relationship as well as the struggles this relationship may have.

The ENFP - ENTP relationship has 3 preference similarities and 1 preference differences. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually:


  • Because both parties enjoy people, they are likely to go for many socializing activities and parties together.
  • They will likely enjoy each other’s energy and zest for life and have many fun activities and adventures together.
  • Because of their love for people and socializing, they are likely to have a large network around them, supporting and mediating for the couple in time of need.
  • Because both love to speak, (not so much listen), they may try to compete for air time when conversing with one another. So instead of listening, they may out talk each other in order to be heard.
  • Hence, they may not feel fulfilled, especially if one party is always doing the talking and the other doing the listening.
  • One party may turn to outside friends to fill that desire to speak and be heard, and in bad cases, it may lead to extra-marital affair.


  • Because both parties enjoy discussing big ideas, possibilities and global issues, they will usually find a certain attraction to each other.
  • This is especially if they have similar viewpoints on certain issues, they will find chemistry with each other.
  • Both tend to enjoy each other’s uniqueness, not just in viewpoints but also in fashion, tastes and so on.
  • Because both parties enjoy talking about the future, their conversations will more often revolve around future hopes and dreams and exciting possibilities.
  • However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected.Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance.The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.

    A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper.


  • Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler’s compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.
  • Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense.
  • The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
  • Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
  • Thinkers may not understand the Feeler’s desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler’s behavior and deem them complicated.
  • Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don’t show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship.


  • Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision.
  • Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim. Little conflict over these issues.
  • Both parties are comfortable with disorganization in the household; the household will probably be messy, and both are perfectly fine with it.
  • Both parties tend to be less consistent in performing routine household tasks like cleaning the house, doing the laundry and paying the bills.
  • However, since these activities are a necessary evil, the partner that tries to do these tasks consistently may feel frustrated and maybe resentful.
  • Also, because both parties want to keep their options open, they are likely to procrastinate making important decisions, sometimes even pushing it away until they make none.


Here’s how ENFPs and ENTPs can relate to each other better:

Reaching out to the ENFP as an ENTP
  • Give time to share – Your partner enjoys having time to talk as much as you do. Give your partner time to share if you happen to be dominating a conversation. 
  • Discuss your insights – Your pragmatic insights may be at odds with your partner’s values-based opinions. Discuss it to learn a different perspective from each other.  
  • Be encouraging and affirming – Your criticism or directness may be seen as insensitive or offensive. Adopt an encouraging and affirming way to say it. 
  • Support your partner’s dreams – Your partner has dreams that he/she hopes to be fulfilled. Learn about them and find ways you can practically support your partner to succeed. 
  • Focus on developing people – Your partner is most receptive to ideas that have got to do with developing people mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
Reaching out to the ENTP as an ENFP
  • Allow each other to share equally – Speak up, and then allow your partner to speak up by asking them the questions. If your partner is dominating the conversation, request for uninterrupted sharing. 
  • Don’t be taken aback by their scepticism – Your partner may challenge ideas of any sort. Don’t be taken aback – it is your partner’s way of proving the viability of an idea but seeing how well-reasoned your thought is. 
  • Use objective facts – To convince your partner, use objective facts and logic. Refrain from using passion or personal values to inspire them. 
  • Attempt to find a conclusion – Don’t let discussions stay at the head level and lead to nothing than a good talk. Find actionable steps that both of you can execute on. 
  • Excite them with a vision – Your partner can be motivated by a possibility, idea or a vision. Use it to inspire your partner to action, especially if you sense motivation is low.

This is a summary of the joys and pains of the ENFP – ENTP relationship.

However, personality dynamics are more complex than this. It does not just extend to the difference or similarity in individual preferences but goes deeper than that.