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To understand the ENFJ’s development, we have to understand the hierarchy of mental functions for the ENFJ. The hierarchy of mental functions for the ENFJ is about which mental function (Sensing, Intuiting, Thinking or Feeling) the ENFJ is most comfortable with using and which they are least comfortable in using.
Without going too much into Type dynamics, let’s look at the ENFJ’s hierarchy of mental functions:
The ENFJ is most comfortable with the Dominant Function Extraverted Feeling and least comfortable with the Inferior Function Introverted Thinking.
DEVELOPMENT OF EXTRAVERTED FEELING
As children, the ENFJ will develop the Extraverted Feeling function. They deeply seek harmony and approval from their parents and will go all out of the way to please them.
They are highly sensitive to the social climate wherever they are and will be deeply affected if there is rejection or disapproval. They are caring and compassionate children who have the heart for those around them.
If they have not properly developed this function in their youth, they may grow up to make erratic decisions or accept the judgments of others too easily.
DEVELOPMENT OF INTROVERTED INTUITION
During puberty, the ENFJ will start developing the auxiliary function, Introverted Intuition. They will start developing a capacity for imagination and projecting future events.
They will likely display great creativity in their work as well and show quickness of understanding. They may develop ‘crushes’ in their relationships, finding someone to invest themselves emotionally in.
If they have not been allowed to develop this function, they may grow up to become judgmental; not seeing possibilities but making stubborn decisions without sufficient information.
Assuming an environment is supportive of their development, most ENFJs would have developed Extraverted Feeling and Introverted Intuition by 20 years old or so.
Their areas of improvement will most likely come from the underdeveloped sides of Extraverted Sensing and Introverted Thinking. Below are some suggestions for improvement:
DEVELOPMENT OF EXTRAVERTED SENSING
If those functions are not developed by the age of 30, the ENFJ will feel the tension to continue growing, firstly to start developing the tertiary function Extraverted Sensing.
ENFJs may start noticing details that they’ve not noticed before; they will start having an appreciation of details of the natural world: the rustling of leaves on the trees, the gentle trickle of a drizzle and the soft caress of a breeze. They may start observing details about people’s dressing and mannerisms that they’ve never noticed before as well.
The ENFJ can further develop the Extraverted Sensing function through these simple exercises:
DEVELOPMENT OF INTROVERTED THINKING
From midlife onward, the ENFJ’s focus turns toward the inferior function, Introverted Thinking. The underdeveloped Introverted Thinking of ESFJs comes out in a childish way when under stress, leading them to be critical of themselves or even sarcastic in their language.
But in midlife, there is an unconscious shift and desire to develop that inferior function to achieve wholeness and continual growth. It is an uncomfortable but necessary transition.
Here are some simple exercises to consciously develop the Introverted Thinking function: