Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Do what you say you will

Follow through on your commitments and keep all the promises that you’ve made.

Respect the need for order

Be as neat and organised as you can, especially in common areas where you both interact. Do not dismiss your friend’s need for neatness as something obsessive.

Be forthcoming

Try to open up and share more about your what’s going on with you. Revealing your thoughts and reactions is a way of establishing and deepening the connection.

Share your friend’s burdens

Help your friend out in practical ways like running errands together or supporting the projects. Your friend is most appreciative when the day-to-day needs are met.

Learn to compromise

Your friend has a strong need to exercise control and be in charge. You may resent this but attempt to find a compromise so that you can preserve the friendship.