Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Speak up intentionally

Make it a point to make your feelings and thoughts heard, no matter how inadequate you think they may be.

Be objective

Use objective logic with your friend; avoid using emotion or personal values to convince him/her.

Don’t take it personally

Your friend may say things in jest that appear offensive or insensitive to you; best is to not take it personally and realize it has more to do with the issue.

Stand by your ideas with reason

Your friend will challenge your ideas; stand by them with reason but don’t expect your friend to accept it. He/she enjoys a challenge.

Be open to changes

Your friend is likely to make changes to their plans spontaneously; don’t be surprised and be patient with him/her.