Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Be warm and enthusiastic

Open up, be warm and enthusiastic when engaging your friend. Increase your energy level intentionally.

Do fun things together

The best way to connect with your friend is to do fun things together, especially social activities.

Be encouraging and affirming

Say what you need to say to them in an encouraging and affirming manner; your friend is likely to be more receptive that way.

Don’t micromanage

Your friend wants the freedom to choose what to do and when to do it. Refrain from micromanaging your friend in any way.

Be patient with your friend’s spontaneity

Your friend will likely make plans spontaneously and change them at their whim. Be patient with him/her.