Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Encourage them to communicate

Your friend is likely to defer to your opinion. If you want to get feedback, refrain from interrupting or criticising.

Make it specific

Avoid getting into the ‘big picture’. Give your friend specific instructions about what you expect.

Be gentle and affirming

Put aside your critical self and adopt a gentle and affirming tone when you are speaking with them.

Don’t expect them to engage you in debate

Your friend does not enjoy discussions or debates that require contentious viewpoints. Refrain from doing so, unless necessary.

Give them options

Your friend wants the freedom of choice. You may have an opinion about which course of action is better but allow your friend to choose.