Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Speak up intentionally

Make it a point to speak up. If not, your friend may unintentionally dominate the conversation.

Increase your energy level

Be warmer and more energetic when engaging your friend; if not, your friend may find it hard to stay focused on what you are saying.

Explain your logic

Whatever thought you suggest, make a clear explanation why you think so – don’t just challenge for its own sake.

Encourage your friend’s enthusiasm

Your friend is a possibility seeker – don’t douse it too early with contrarian thinking. Rather, you can encourage the enthusiasm and then suggest some ways to improve.

Take nothing personally

Your debates may get rather intense. Take nothing personally but treat it as refining each other’s point of view.