Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Intentionally express yourself

Be intentional about sharing your thoughts but especially your feelings. Your friend is a person of few words so you can initiate by being open.

Make it plain

Don’t bring your critical theoretical analysis to your friend. Instead, say it in plain and simple language.

Give freedom

Give your friend the freedom of choice. Resist the need to tie your friend down to a decision or a commitment.

Be gentle and affirming

Don’t be critical about your friend’s thoughts and especially feelings. Be gentle and affirming to encourage your friend to share more.

Be open to change

Your friend is likely to make changes to decisions, schedules and plans without informing you. Be patient, for it will likely get on your nerves.