Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Express yourself

Both of you have complex thoughts that you may find hard to express. Make the effort to do so, no matter how incomplete it feels.

Be warm and open

Be warm and open to your friend thoughts and especially feelings. Refrain from being critical in any way.

Ask questions

Your friend is likely to have many unshared thoughts. Ask genuinely caring questions to get your friend to open up.

Ask your friend about his/her ideals

Ask your friend about his/her dreams and ideals about life. Don’t be critical about feasibility of their ideas – just accept it and encourage it.

Focus on personal growth

Focus on helping your friend become better by talking about personal growth through reading or personal experiences.