Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Encourage your friend to speak up

Your friend may be shy and quiet. Encourage him/her to speak up and then listen attentively to what he/she has to say.

Be patient

Don’t interject. Your friend does not like to speak and will gladly give you the ‘stage’ if you want to talk. Be patient and listen instead.

Let your friend work alone

Your friend prefers letting their hands do the talking. Leave your friend to work or rest alone, he/she will come and chat with you when he/she is ready.

Don’t be surprised by the ‘disappearance’

Your friend may come and go unannounced. Don’t be surprised – it’s just that he/she needs time to be alone. There’s no need to press them for reasons.