Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Be patient when listening

You have to be very patient when getting feedback from your friend. Listen attentively, don’t criticise and don’t interject when he/she is thinking.

Give specific instructions

Avoid talking about the big picture strategy or using complex language. Break down your instructions into to-do lists and actionable steps.

Adopt a gentle and affirming way

Your words may seem crude, aggressive or offensive to your friend. Adopt a gentle and affirming way of saying something.

Don’t challenge your friend

You may challenge your friend as a means to understand its logic. Try not to do so, but rather adopt a gentle way of clarifying without jumping to conclusions.   

Give freedom

Don’t press your friend for conclusions. The more you press, the more likely your friend will avoid you. Give your friend the freedom to decide when, where and how.