Give time for reflection

Give your friend time to reflect on your words. Don’t expect a response quickly – be patient and wait for the answer. Don’t interrupt.

Explain things at a details level

Talking about the big picture is natural for you, but often leaves your friend confused. Break down the big picture to the specifics like to-dos and actionable steps. 

Adopt a gentle and affirming tone

Your words may come across as offensive and insensitive to your friend. Adopt a gentle and affirming tone when engaging your friend. 

Give time for a change

Your friend may be uncomfortable with your new ideas or initiatives – give him/her time and space to make adjustments if the change is necessary.

Use past success to convince

For your friend to adopt a new proposal or idea, he/she has to see track records of past success. Show these to convince your friend of the merit of your idea.