Here’s how you can connect with your friend better:

Don’t expect quick answers

Ask a question and then listen patiently to your friend’s response. Don’t interject or cover the silence with more words.

Let them consider possibilities

Let your friend consider new ideas and possibilities; listen to it and refrain from being critical, but gently point out ideas for improvement.

Take care how you say it

Your straightforward approach sometimes comes across as offensive or insensitive. Adopt a friendly, warm and encouraging tone when expressing your view. 

Support your friend’s dreams

When your friend shares his/her dream with you, don’t be critical too quickly. Instead, find ways you can support them to achieve it.

Don’t rush to conclude

When you want to make a decision, don’t close it too quickly. Your friend probably needs some time to think about it before coming back to you. Give some time for openness.