Intimate Love Relationships

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Ethan Lin

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Understanding your partner and loved ones.

This section Type and Relationships will help you understand how your personality relates to others as a spouse, love and parent. There is also a bonus section where you can find out how particular personalities relate to each other in a love relationship.

 

 

We are more different than we know.

More often than not, we cannot comprehend the difference in values and beliefs or another person and therefore expecting the other person to think from our perspective.

 

These differences become even clearer in a romantic relationship. The greater the level of intimacy, the more pronounced the differences. This is the reason why there are so many conflicts and arguments the closer two people get.

 

In reality, most of these conflicts stem from personality differences. The question “why can’t you think and act like me?” is the hidden root of every argument on differences.

 

If we could understand personality, we could bridge these differences and pave the way for profound mutual understanding and respect.

 

Check your personality against your partner’s!

 

In this section, you can find out how your personality will interact with your partner’s personality!

 

(If you are not clear about your personality, go to Free Personality Test to get your 4 letter Type!)

 

While these descriptions are generalizations (i.e they may not all apply to your relationship), you will find it extremely helpful to understand the likely nature of conflicts in your relationship!

 

Choose your Type, and then choose your partner’s Type in the drop-down boxes below!

 

Select your type from the Type and Relationships Table below:

Strength Based Leadership

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Ethan Lin

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Leading Self and Others

This section Type and Leadership is about the application of personality types in leadership and management, in particular, 4 key functions of leadership: Self leadership, setting the vision, connecting with others and accomplishing of goals.

 

Self Leadership

  • The most important person leaders need to lead are themselves. Without self-awareness or self-discipline, a leader will find it hard to lead others. Learn how each personality practices self-leadership.

 

Setting the Vision

  • One of the most important leadership competencies is to set a direction for the organization to follow. Learn the language of each personality in setting visions.

Connecting with Others

  • Leaders need to know how to win people over to them; connecting with people is one of the key skills of a leader. Find out how each leader connects with their team.

 

Accomplishing of Goals

  • Setting a vision and building connections is nothing without proper execution. Understand each type’s strengths and weaknesses in execution and the accomplishing of goals.

Each of the sixteen types also has a unique path for leadership development. In each of the sixteen types, I give suggestions and tips for further development as well.

 

Click on the personality type you would like find out more about:

Personal Growth

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Ethan Lin

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This section Type and Development talks about the developmental path of each of the 16 personality types as well as suggesting possible growth paths for each of them.

 

With the understanding of type comes the understanding of strengths and weaknesses of each personality. The tendency for us is to focus on the weaknesses and consider how we can develop them to become a more whole personality; in fact, with that understanding we might even impose certain expectations on other personalities, expecting them to work on those areas they are weak in.

 

However, it is actually counterproductive and may hurt someone’s development if premature development of the weaker areas is demanded of any personality.

 

Click below to read more about the developmental paths of each personality:

Type and Development:
The 4 Mental Functions

Personality theory talks about the 4 mental functions being used in hierarchy in any person’s life; namely, the Sensing, Intuition, Thinking and Feeling functions. All of us use these functions, but not with equal comfort.

 

The level of comfort each personality uses each of these functions is put in a hierarchy.

 

  • The DOMINANT FUNCTION is the first and strongest mental function of an individual. This dominant function is developed the earliest in an individual’s life from birth to teen-hood. As a result, the dominant function is being used more frequently and therefore with the greatest comfort.

 

  • The AUXILIARY FUNCTION is the 2nd strongest mental function of an individual.  This auxiliary function is like a support to the dominant function. This function is developed from teen-hood onwards to around 30 years old. Society often categorizes the change in behaviour and orientation in teenagers as rebellion or identity crisis; but often are teenagers exploring their auxiliary function.

For most people, their dominant and auxiliary function will be well-developed by their late 20s to 30s. Their strengths and weaknesses are more pronounced by this time. That is when the need for development of the tertiary function comes.

 

  • The TERTIARY FUNCTION is the 2nd weakest mental function, and will usually develop from 30 years old to mid-life. It is a time of life where the individual feels their personal growth has plateau, and discovers the need to develop the tertiary function to become more complete.

 

  • The INFERIOR FUNCTION is the weakest mental function of the individual. In their youth, the inferior function often came out in uncontrolled, unexpected ways under stress. Through mid-life, individuals begin to feel the tension to learn more about this.

The goal of personality development is to help every person become a whole and complete individual.

 

A complete individual is one that uses each mental function appropriately as and when the situation calls for it. i.e When it is time to be merciful and caring, they do it. When it is time to be firm, logical and objective, they do it.

Click below to read more about the developmental paths of each personality:

 

Effective Communication

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Ethan Lin

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This section Type and Communication is about the ’16 different languages’ of the types and how to communicate more effectively with each type.

We all speak different languages. These languages are different because we have different values and beliefs, and they show themselves most evidently in our speech and communication.

Communication is the key to relationships.

Yet, because of our differences in personality type, we run into unpleasant obstacles when trying to express ourselves. Unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts occur as a result of these failures in communication.

 

  • At work, you may even find it tough to understand your boss who seems to be so friendly and nice in a social setting, yet becomes an entirely different person at work.

 

  • At home, you have been married to your spouse for a decade now, but it seems like there’s still plenty of occasions where you misunderstand each other.

 

These misunderstandings is often the cause of our frustrations with people. So much unhappiness could be avoided if we simply knew how to speak each other’s language. Thankfully, personality type gives us a framework to do so.

 

 

Understanding different languages.

In this section, you will learn about the individual languages of the 16 types and understand how you can reach each type more effectively through tuning your language.

 Select your Personality Type

Successful Careers

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Ethan Lin

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Personality and Careers Finding the right job fit

This section Personality and Careers will help you understand your unique personality type’s favorite careers. 

Choosing a Job

Choosing a job can be a daunting task for most of us, and rightly so. A job is at least a year’s commitment, and for those who wish to build a career, it is a lifetime.

 

Your job is something you’ll be engaged in for practically most of your time. From 9am – 5pm daily, you will be on the job, solving problems, running projects, executing tasks related to your job and organisation.

 

If you find a job you love, well done. You will find purpose and fulfilment in what you do.

 

But for most of people, they find jobs that barely engage or energize them.

 

Perhaps they chose it because of the salary, location or working hours, but they didn’t choose it because it was something they would thoroughly enjoy.

 

As a result, most people may live their days just getting by, and not feeling that fulfilment that they crave from their job.

 

That’s why we need to understand something deeper about ourselves and our job preferences through the power of personality type.

 

Personality affects job preference.

Our personalities offer a great clue to what kind of jobs we will enjoy and what kind of jobs we dislike.

 

In this section, you will find out more about what kind of jobs your personality will enjoy the most. It will be an enlightening moment for you as you discover many more things about yourself that you never knew!

 

Select your type from the personality and careers table: