Joys and Struggles
This section INFJ-INFJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Specifically, we will be looking at the joys of this relationship as well as the struggles this relationship may have.
The INFJ-INFJ relationship has 4 preference similarities and 0 preference differences. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually:
- Introverts have a natural mutual respect of each other's private time and space; both will know the need for the occasional solitude and quiet.
- In recreation, both enjoy that alone time and at the most with a close group of friends; both do not like big social gatherings or parties.
- If they have a common interest, introverts will enjoy those long, deep meaningful conversations they can have with one another.
- Both are naturally good listeners; they will enjoy taking turns to share and asking questions to one another.
- Without a common interest, they may find it challenging to keep the conversation going. In a short while, they may find they run out of things to talk about.
- Because both enjoy the silence so much, they may take communication for granted and not share their feelings with each other often enough.
- May lack a support network if both do not belong to a community because of their lack of desire to socialize.
- Because both parties enjoy discussing big ideas, possibilities and global issues, they will usually find a certain attraction to each other.
- This is especially if they have similar viewpoints on certain issues, they will find chemistry with each other.
- Both tend to enjoy each other's uniqueness, not just in viewpoints but also in fashion, tastes and so on.
- Because both parties enjoy talking about the future, their conversations will more often revolve around future hopes and dreams and exciting possibilities.
- However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected.
- Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance.
- The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
- A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper.
- Both parties are attracted to each other's warmth, sensitivity and kindness to each other's needs.
- Both will likely enjoy their expressiveness and natural affection with each other.
- Both Feeling types tend to recognize and consider their partner's needs and try to meet them. Hence there is usually high level of harmony in the relationship.
- Because both value some level of harmony, they may store up unhappy feelings inside and not share openly.
- They may avoid necessary conflict and disagreements; this is unhealthy in the long run for the quality of the relationship.
- Because both may decisions with their personal values, they may sometimes overlook logical consequences of certain actions.
- Because both value organization, they are likely to have a neat and tidy household with clear rules and standards, something which both parties will prefer.
- They are likely also to plan their schedules with each other, with little or no issue with unnecessary last minute changes.
- They will also appreciate their partner's ability to keep up with the demands of everyday living and stay on top.
- They will likely be strong together with budgeting, there will be little or no issues with planning out finances together.
- Even though both parties may have standards in the household, they may have very different standards.
- Because both tend to be opinionated, their arguments and quarrels may be more intense. Both may refuse to budge on their standards and compromise.
- Both parties like to settle things; this means that sometimes they may make premature decisions without sufficiently considering their alternative options.
This is a summary of the joys and pains of the INFJ-INFJ relationship.
However, personality dynamics are more
complex than this. It does not just extend to the difference or similarity in
individual preferences but goes deeper than that.
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