ENFP Relationships

ENFPs are enthusiastic, encouraging and inspiring partners who love to talk about their many ideas. They are passionate people who often have a dream or a cause to fight for and they enjoy sharing about these dreams or causes. They are people who see potential in their partners and seek to bring it out through encouragement and affirmation.

ENFPs hold certain beliefs very dear to their hearts. These beliefs could range from human rights, environmental protection, equality for all. ENFPs do often become the leaders of such causes because of their charisma and energy. It is very important that their partners agree with their beliefs and stand together with them. If not, this can become a source of conflict between them.

ENFPs are supportive and encouraging to their partners, inspiring them to go achieve their dreams and reach for the stars. They instill their partners with their belief that anything is possible if one is committed to achieving it. However, sometimes they can go into the realm of unrealism. Their partners would do well to bring a good mix of realism to the ENFP’s idealistic nature.  

Although articulate and charismatic, they tend to avoid conflict with their partners. They prefer to withdraw and deal with their hurt emotions rather than bring it out to the open because they want to avoid disharmony in their relationships. Even though ENFPs appear to be fine, they tend to hold these resentments inside themselves, only to have a catalyst trigger the resentment in the future. ENFPs should learn to speak up and assert themselves when they feel hurt or slighted by a remark or deed. They also need to know that any forms of criticism is not personal; in fact, they should take it as an opportunity for growth. 

ENFPs love to start on new projects, ideas, initiatives; they are driven by a constant source of inspiration that continually energizes them and gives them new vigor and excitement for life. However, they tend not to finish these projects, ideas and intiatives before another idea or inspiration catches their attention. In a relationship, this means that they could get bored easily with their partners. This is especially true if their partners are introverts, and unless they feel bound by their deeply held personal values, ENFPs may have a tendency to switch partners quite frequently. 

Nonetheless, ENFPs feel most loved when their creativity and uniqueness are accepted by their partners. Their partners should accommodate their quirky ideas and also refrain from judging them when their ideas fail; no “I told you so” or “It’s just one of another of your stupid ideas” . Words of affirmation are important to them. Love notes and thoughtful gifts will make an ENFP’s day too.  

In the household, the ENFPs tend to have little interest in dealing with everyday tasks like paying the bills and repairing the broken household items. Instead, they prefer to live in the realm of their ideas, inspired by the next big project they will embark on. This may frustrate their partners who may feel the ENFPs talk a lot, but do very little to help out in the household.

According to Keirsey’s Temperament Theory, the ideal partner for the ENFP is the INTJ, whose calm, objective and stable nature complement the ENFP well in a relationship.

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