The ISTP-ISFP
Relationship
Joys and Struggles

This section ISTP-ISFP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Specifically, we will be looking at the joys of this relationship as well as the struggles this relationship may have.

The ISTP-ISFP relationship has 3 preference similarities and 1 preference difference. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually:

Introversion-Introversion

Joys

  • Introverts have a natural mutual respect of each other's private time and space; both will know the need for the occasional solitude and quiet.

  • In recreation, both enjoy that alone time and at the most with a close group of friends; both do not like big social gatherings or parties. 

  • If they have a common interest, introverts will enjoy those long, deep meaningful conversations they can have with one another.

  • Both are naturally good listeners; they will enjoy taking turns to share and asking questions to one another. 

Struggles

  • Without a common interest, they may find it challenging to keep the conversation going. In a short while, they may find they run out of things to talk about. 

  • Because both enjoy the silence so much, they may take communication for granted and not share their feelings with each other often enough. 

  • May lack a support network if both do not belong to a community because of their lack of desire to socialize.

Sensing-Sensing

Joys

  • Will likely enjoy similar topics in conversation, mainly about past and present happenings related to, people they've met, places they've been, experiences they seen.

  • Both like language simple, straightforward and literal; will likely 'click' with each other.

  • Because both tend to live in the present, household duties are less likely to be neglected. However the more passive ones may still not perform them.

Struggles

  • Although both enjoy Sensory details, the couple may disagree on specifics in the household: i.e. what colour should the wall be, where should the vase be placed.

  • In times of crises, both partners tend to over-worry or think up worst case scenarios, which is unproductive and sometimes cause destructive conflict between the couple.

  • In such cases, they may lack the future looking vision that will help them through the crisis. 

Thinking-Feeling

Joys

  • Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. 

  • Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. 

  • The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.

Struggles

  • Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler. 

  • Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated. 

  • Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship. 

Perceiving-Perceiving

Joys

  • Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision.

  • Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim. Little conflict over these issues.

  • Both parties are comfortable with disorganization in the household; the household will probably be messy, and both are perfectly fine with it. 

Struggles

  • Both parties tend to be less consistent in performing routine household tasks like cleaning the house, doing the laundry and paying the bills.

  • However, since these activities are a necessary evil, the partner that tries to do these tasks consistently may feel frustrated and maybe resentful.

  • Also, because both parties want to keep their options open, they are likely to procrastinate making important decisions, sometimes even pushing it away until they make none.

This is a summary of the joys and pains of the ISTP-ISFP relationship.

However, personality dynamics are more complex than this. It does not just extend to the difference or similarity in individual preferences but goes deeper than that.



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